When You’re Asking God for Clarity and Longing for the Life He Made You For


Do you ever feel that quiet ache in your chest that whispers, There has to be more than this?

For a long time, I felt that ache too. It wasn’t loud or dramatic, just a consistent question in the background of my life. I’m not even sure I had the words for it then. I just knew I felt… off. Like everyone else had found their lane, and I was still wandering around asking God, “What did You even make me for?”

I felt it in college when I picked a major simply because it was broad enough to keep my options open.
I still felt it after graduation when I took a job at a bank because it was available, not because it fit anything inside me.
I felt it again when I changed jobs and ended up working nights and weekends while pregnant, exhausted, and wondering why I was pushing so hard toward something that didn’t feel like “me.”

When I became a stay-at-home mom, I thought maybe the ache would finally subside. And while those years were a gift, and I was confident it was where I was supposed to be, the question didn’t disappear. Somewhere between keeping the house running, the errands done, and the kids alive, I wondered if the girl I used to be was still in there somewhere. Like surely I was capable of more.

Later, when I went back to full-time work, I found myself sitting at a desk feeling invisible, depleted, and whispering the same old question…

Lord, is this really it?

And when I was finally laid off, I felt something unexpected.

Relief.

Not because the work was over, but because I finally had space to admit what my heart had been hinting at for years.

I was made for more.

Not “more” as in status or success.
Just… more of what God actually created me to do.
More alignment.
More clarity.
More of a life that reflected the gifts He placed in me, even if I couldn’t see them clearly yet.

Scripture says, “I will instruct you and show you the way to go; with My eye on you, I will give counsel” (Psalm 32:8)
That verse isn’t a quick answer. It’s a steady reminder of a God who meets us in the uncertainty and fog, not after it clears. He’s far more invested in shaping who we become than rushing us into the next thing. And slowly, gently, He leads us toward the woman He created us to be.

If you’re reading this and feeling that same quiet ache, unsure of your purpose, uncertain of your gifts, worn down by the weight of days that all look the same, I see you. This space was made for women like you. Women who love Jesus, but still find themselves asking honest questions about direction, identity, and what it means to live a life that actually feels meaningful.

Here, you’ll find gentle encouragement, Scripture, and small, doable steps that help you recognize where God is already leading you. Nothing crazy. Just a chance to breathe, pay attention, and take the next right step with Him.

And if you need a simple place to start, the Pause + Reset practice is a short, quiet moment to settle your thoughts and remember what’s still true. You can find it in the menu above.

I’m truly grateful you’re here.

Your story still matters, and together we’ll pay attention to where God may be leading next.

Rachel

Abbey Red

A weekly space for Christian women who feel worn down or unsure of which way to go next. I write about identity in Christ and the ways He meets us where we are, especially when we’re asking honest questions about direction, purpose, or what we’re even good at. You’ll find Scripture and encouragement to help you recognize His leading, regain a sense of clarity, and keep growing in your walk with Him.

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